When faced with grief
The most horrible thing we can imagine is the loss of a child. As a matter of fact, we would never say it out loud or let it come to the surface of our minds, but it’s there in all of us as parents. This week we learned of the tragedy of a young girl who lost her life while skiing with friends. It shocked everyone out of that place of peace that nothing bad will happen if I follow Christ. Maybe some of you don’t ever get there, but being saved late in my life at age 38, I thought that was the magic formula. The grief that comes with the loss of life is many days unbearable and my heart goes out to this family that will have to walk this road. There is no making sense of this, I pray for peace for this family and friends as they walk through this storm, and that God will sustain them through this tragedy. When in that place of pain, the only thing that can comfort is friends surrounding them and speaking God’s word of His promises and allowing the people to grieve.
When we gave birth to Lexie (who many of you know was born with trisomy 13) the next day our pastor came and was visiting with me in the hospital and I was crying and said “Why would this happen?” He gently told me that I would be able to comfort others with the comfort I’d received. I was stunned! That’s it? I was a new believer and hadn’t heard that scripture and I was furious. I was already a nice person. Did I need a child who was going to die to be a better comforter? It wasn’t until years later after Lexie had gone to heaven that I finally understood this scripture:
2 Corinthians 1
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God…But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God…”
As I found myself comforting this family friend yesterday, I knew this scripture to be so true. I knew that they would indeed become more reliant on God, but that it would take a while to get there. All I was to do was to comfort. I’m so grateful for our little Lexie who came to this earth to teach me so many things and for God who never left my side. Walking through that storm with my family, I got to the truth of God’s word. And now I know He will never leave me and that He is there to bring hope.
This week a friend came into the office who had shared last week’s post with some friends. He told these business people that we were going to pray at noon on Friday and how could we pray for them. Thinking they would need prayer for their businesses because we pray for the marketplace, several sent back a response within minutes and some within a few hours and all of them were going through personal difficulties that they needed prayer for. Evidence that there are a lot of people going through pain right now that has nothing to do with their business. I want to be aware and sensitive to people that are hurting out there. I don’t want to be so focused on jobs, marketplace, the city, etc., that I don’t see the pain around me in individual lives and I want to come alongside them and ask God to intervene in their lives. After all, I get by with a little help from my friends.
Hope you’ll join us Friday, as we pray at noon at Frank Consulting.